Sumting to ponder:
QUALITIES OF A GREAT PARTNER
1. A HAPPY DISPOSITION -
Look for a happy, optimistic person. Find some1 who has a sense of humor
&
can laugh at himself/herself... True happiness springs fr a content
heart.
Beware of the person who is only happy when u r around. u'r going to get
tired of being responsible for another person's happiness. u could end
up
feeling guilty when the person slips into bouts of depression... True
happiness is... a part of a person's character, regardless of the
circumstances.
2. THOUGHTFULNESS -
How does ur date treat his parents & urs? Chances r u'll get treated
very
much the same way. Does he see things that need to be done & offer to
help?
Or does he put his own needs 1st? Does he open the car door & wait to
seat
u at the table? Manners r important - & they seldom get better after
marriage.
3. NOT EASILY ANGERED -
Temper outbursts... can be the symptom of internal hostility. This
hostility is often repressed during courtship as a person is trying hard
to
be on his best behavior... Take seriously any outburst u observe, &
check
with others who have known this person in different situations to see if
they've noticed this trait... The way a woman treats her younger brother
may be an indication of how she will treat her husband... Be leery of
the
person who has not learned to express his anger in words & instead
merely
harbors angry feelings in his heart. Going silent & withdrawing fr a
loved 1 bcoz of anger is unhealthy & damaging to a r/ship... Be sure u
date
a person long enough to observe how easily he / she bcomes angry & how
these feelings r expressed. Ask urself, "Is this what I want to live
with
for a lifetime?"
4. WILLING TO SOLVE PROBLEMS -
It's almost impossible to solve r/ship problems by urself. Marry some1
who
will be honest enough to admit being wrong, who doesn't have a habit of
blaming others...
5. PURITY -
Purity is not jst an old-fashioned virtue... it's just safer to date
some1
who hasn't played around... At the same time u shouldn't hold it against
a
person for past sexual involvement. u cannot always judge a person's
true
purity by virginity alone... Mind purity is equally important. Is ur
date
pure in his thoughts & speech, as well as behavior? What jokes does he
tell? What music does she listen to? What movies does he watch? What
books
/ magazines does she read? Are they pure or suggestive? Mind pollution
can
lead to disrespect of the opposite sex.
6. TRUTHFUL -
Too often couples play games when they r becoming acquainted... playing
games in a r/ship is a form of dishonesty... Marriage isn't a game. It's
a
serious lifetime commitment. Search ur own feelings & share honestly
during
ur courtship. Be u.
7. GOOD HEALTH HABITS -
No 1 wants to marry a slob - & few do...Bad health habits r difficult to
break. That is y it's best to look for a person who has already
established
positive health practices.
8. ACCEPTS RESPONSIBILITY -
Here are some questions that might detect irresponsibility: ... Does she
see things that need to be done & do them? Does he volunteer to help?
Does
she get to places on time? Does he make lame excuses to get out of
responsibilities? Does she take her talents seriously & work to improve
her
skills? Does he take care of his car and other personal possessions?...
Think abt it. Jst how responsible is the person u are dating?
9. GOOD SENSE OF SELF-WORTH -
Often in a dating r/ship, individuals with a poor self-esteem glean a
sense
of value fr the person they're with. They bcome dependent on their
spouse
to make them feel good... If u dun wan to live a lifetime having to
tiptoe
around a person's fragile ego / having to hold urself back for fear of
how
ur spouse will react, then be careful not to get emotionally involved
with
some1 who has a low sense of self-worth.
10. LIKES CHILDREN -
B4 marriage u may discuss children, but unless u'r around a lot of
children
& can observe ur date interacting with them in a wide variety of
situations, u really dun have any idea abt how he / she may discipline
ur
children in the future. Seldom do both parents totally agree on how a
child
should be raised. Finding some1 who at least likes children is an
advantage.
11. A PERSONAL R/SHIP WITH GOD -
It's very important for a marriage partner to have a personal r/ship
with
God. Look for some1 who is spiritually sensitive & willing to follow
God's
law. A Spirit-filled life is 1 filled with luv, joy, peace, patience,
gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness & temperance (Galatians 5:22,23).
A
person who exhibits these traits is certainly easier to live with than
some1 who doesn't... What abt ur date? If u'r interested in a real
Christian, make sure his faith is part of his life 24hours a day.
12. ACCEPTS U JUST THE WAY U R -
True luv is unconditional luv... The important question to ask is, "Do I
luv her faults?" Only when u can truly love the total person, including
all
the points & bad habits, can u accept ur mate for who he is & not
secretly
wish u could change him.
13. WILLING TO GROW -
Good marriage partners grow together. They encourage each other to
maximize
their knowledge, skills & potential... Make sure the person u date
seriously is the kind of person who is open to learning & will make
changes
when changes need to be made.
14. AFFECTIONATE -
The ability to express love through words & actions is vital for an
intimate luv r/ship... look for tender words, acts & touches that r
given naturally & "appropriately" throughout the day, & not jst in
private.
Shared by Joe Gatuslao Philippines
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ina sighed at 12:34 AM
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